It has been difficult to find time to write on this blog. At least a dozen times in the past week, I have had some burst of inspiration, usually after reading the news, but then find it just about impossible to focus on writing. Right now I am forcing myself to write although I’m very tired, Lily is asleep on my lap, and I am typing with one hand, my non-dominant hand no less.
I’m going to ask you, dear reader, for a little help. Which of the following topics do you find compelling? Which should I take the time to expound upon? Leave a comment below, and I will be grateful for your input.
- In today’s New York Times Magazine, there was a fascinating article on equal parenting that made me think a lot. In particular, it made me reflect on how the oppressive expectations and habits of the larger culture have a way of insinuating themselves into the most personal aspects of individual lives. How can an avowed feminist and questioner of gender stereotypes push back against this? How do the families that are profiled in the article push back? Do they have advantages that others don’t, or rather, that I don’t?
- I am a fan of Carolyn Baker’s blog, Speaking Truth to Power, and she recently posted about her relocating to Vermont as a way to prepare for collapse. Also, Sharon Astyk wrote a post recently titled City, Country, Suburb? It Isn’t Where You Live, but How You Live There. These have given me much food for thought. For quite a while, I have been wondering if my family is in the right place to weather the collapse, both in terms of our geographic location (the Pioneer Valley of western Massachusetts) and in terms of our current living arrangement (at Rocky Hill Cohousing). We are also in a transition period as a family, as Tom is looking for a new job.
- I always have a boatload of reflections on living in cohousing, or at least living in my particular cohousing…I try to balance the positive and negative feelings that come up, but I confess that I often feel disillusioned. Sometimes I feel just plain devastated. Mostly I direct my blame at the larger culture of Empire and how it interferes with the well-intentioned plans of good people. Sometimes I blame myself.
- I am still thinking a great deal about birth, death, grieving, and joy. You may have already read my post about Charlotte and her thoughtful mama, who writes so eloquently about the depth of her loss as well as her joys. I have been mulling over the idea of pursuing joy as a necessary spiritual duty, as serious as grieving the beloved dead. The wonderful Patti Digh blogs about how to make the most of life and death over at 37 Days and I am so inspired by her thoughts. There is so much more I want to say but I’m not sure where to start. I also think about this in the context of severe mood disruption, non-theistic spirituality, and psychological adaptation to the Great Turning.
- I came across an intriguing website by someone in Calgary called Annie the Nanny who writes about Peak Oil Parenting. Intriguing topic, I thought, as the parent of a 14-month-old, as well as a peakist/peaknik/whatever (okay, I wish there were some better terminology around). I was a bit surprised when she went on to attack Attachment Parenting as something that would never work in a post-peak world. I was tempted to write some kind of rebuttal, but then a British woman named Fiona apparently beat me to it in a letter that Annie posted and then responded to. Annie now says it’s not Attachment Parenting per se that wouldn’t work, it’s Child-Centered Parenting, and really, most of the AP parents she deals with have got AP all wrong. I still have a bunch of thoughts about how AP might work better in a post-peak world, not worse.
Okay, that’s probably enough potential topics for now! Leave me a comment if any of them sound interesting to you.